Loss and happiness and a tribute

3/19/2010 08:50:00 PM / Posted by Kris /

this has been a rough end of the week for me. On Thursday I learned that one of my roommates from college died during childbirth. She had pre-eclampsia and was 35 weeks so they did an emergency C-section. The baby was born healthy but my friend died from intercranial bleeding. Now her husband, Matt, is left with four little ones and no wife.
I had grown apart from Kylee in the last few years but what I remember about her was how much life she had and how much she loved God. That is where I am getting my comfort, I know that she is now singing and dancing up with the angels and having a blast. with all this happening I found out that she had a blog that she occasionally posted to and I went back and started reading old posts. This is one that I read today and started crying because it is so her.

Hungry for Home

This week I had a conversation with a friend. It was difficult, sad, and full of truth at its purest. What was spoken was nothing to be argued with and yet it made me long for Home.

Last week Matt was gone for our staff retreat. I chose to stay home with the kids and it was difficult, fun, and full of laughter and some tears. I realized that I am deeply connected to Matt. The kind of connection that I am scared to admit. Part of me wants to believe that if I had to, I could make it on my own. But the truth is, I am a better person with him around. I laugh more, choose truth more, cry more for others, seek Christ more fervently, am sharpened and well...more like Jesus because he and I are deeply intertwined. It made me wonder what Home will be like, with all of us together in our purest form, tightly wound around eachother, depending on one another without self-protection, without reservation or fear.

I am longing for Home. I know this is good because I was never meant to nestle in here. The verse that has haunted me often is when Jesus is talking and says that birds have nests, foxes have dens, but the Son of man has no place to lay his head...it sobers this world up a bit. It keeps me from being intoxicated by what it has to offer. There is a line in a Rich Mullins song that says, "Nobody tells you when you get born here, how much you'll come to love it and how you'll never belong here. So I'll call you my country, but I'll be longing for my home. I wish that I could take you there with me."

What I do long for on this side of heaven is deep, intertwining friendships that never question the realm of purity and never tap into self-protection. There is a loneliness that subsides only for a little while, usually with a hug or a warm smile. But usually...usually it haunts me because I know I have no place to lay my head and weep.
Kylee, I will miss you but am happy that you are Home.



Comment by Lori on 3/20/2010 1:17 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. It made me hug my hisband and kids.

Comment by ~ames~ on 3/20/2010 1:30 PM

Awww Kris, I'm sorry you lost your friend. That was a beautiful post she wrote too.

Comment by Marg on 3/21/2010 7:57 AM

So often we think of child birth as being safe these days so it is espeically shocking when something like this happens.

Sorry for your loss.

Comment by nath on 3/22/2010 7:25 PM

Awww, I'm sorry to hear about your friend, Kris :( Life is hard :(

Comment by Tracy on 3/29/2010 6:45 PM

Kris - I'm so sorry this is delayed but please accept my sympathies for the loss of your friend. I will pray for Matt and his children and Kylee's family. She sounds like she was a great person inside and out.

{{big hug}}

Comment by Kris on 3/29/2010 9:34 PM

Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts, they are very helpful :) There were over 1,000 people at her service, she impacted so many and she was only 31 years old.

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